Lets Talk About Sex….Again
I saw an article in the The Daily Telegraph which caught my eye. “Sex lives of Australian women”, which led to a book by the same name. It involved the findings of a major online survey regarding sex and women in Australia. Around 2000 women were surveyed, and the results are interesting. Firstly a woman apparently has an average of 13 different sexual partners in her life. Phew, glad I make that category. But really how true is it? We all know what they say, women half it, men double it. But thats our secret. Let me share with you a few other interesting findings.
ONE in four women view pornography regularly; does perving in the locker room during half time of a footy game on T.V count?
MOST women (61 per cent) masturbate at least once a month; mmmm, well have you seen the toys out there these day’s, why wouldn’t you.
ONE in five have starred in their own sex tape; uh uh, not going to happen. Any video that comes near my naked body will end up jammed somewhere painful. Who really wants to watch themselves having sex?? Other than celebrities of course.
MULTIPLE partners are a growing fad; not sure if this means at once, or one after the other. But gee are we turing into men!
MANY complain of boring sex lives and one in three rarely, if ever, experience orgasm; well they need to read my blog more for tips. Or get a new partner who knows what he’s doing.
ALMOST half (49 per cent) say they want sex most of the time when it is offered. I must say, I don’t often knock back sex, but I am in my 30’s which is apparently in my prime. And the humping like rabbits when in a fresh relationship doesn’t last forever, so I say make the most of it.
It also states that women want more emotional intimacy before sex, and need to understand their voice is there most important sexual organ. In otherwords tell him what you want. He won’t know if you don’t tell him! This basically leads to women faking orgasms regularly, (as seen in the above clip, which I love from “When Harry met Sally”). 1 in 10 women do fake it almost everytime, according to another survey reported in the Daily Mail. Which doesn’t say a lot for the male lovers of the world.
So what that tells me is, women out there need to take control, ask for what you want, watch plenty of porn, tape yourself having (drunk) sex, masturbate regularly and you’ll be happy in your relationship. Sounds so easy!
Posted in In the News, Sex and naughty stuff on April 8th, 2010 by Blog Admin | | 0 Comments
The Be Be
I recently received a comment on this site showing me a new product available for women, and asking me if I would like to receive and review it. It was a product relevant and well suited to my site. Well, that got my interest! So I went and had a look at the website and then eagerly awaited my delivery. When i got the notice from the post office, I very quickly went to retrieve my package. Knowing what was inside I had a sly little smile on my face, if only thay all knew what I was picking up. Not a present form Granny thats for sure. Ok I know the suspense is killing you. Let me tell you a bit about The Be Be, as shown above.
“Discreet and stylish! Compact and glamorous! The Be Be is the first intimate massager you’ll be confident enough to carry around in your handbag and the only massager you won’t be afraid to leave on your bedside table!” Thats how the Australian creators Lisa Hughes and Kristine Morgan describe it on their website. At first I was a little confused, thinking, Is this a vibrator? Well it’s more of an “intimate massager”, designed for external (non penetrative) use. Basically it can be used on all erogenous zones from the clitoris, neck and shoulders down to the thighs and feet. I must say once it used on the clitoris, forget the rest!
I love that it comes in a little satin pouch in a stylish case, almost like a sunglasses case. It is very discreet, if someone stumbled across it in your bag, at first glance they wouldn’t think twice about it being a massager. It also keeps in with my purple theme, remember discussions about my vibrator the “purple penguin”? It matches nicely. I happened to have a spa party at mine the afternoon I received my new toy,what better place to show it off. A room full of women pampering themselves and gossiping about sex and men. Of course I hadn’t sampled the product yet, I did give a few neck massages to the girls who were all rapt. Once I had shown it off it was for my use only. And I must say Im impressed.
I would say most women my age own a vibrator and if they don’t, get one! I myself (ok Im getting personal here, Mum don’t read this bit) prefer the added clitoris stimulator on a vibrator like on The famous “Rabbit” seen on Sex and the City. I’ve talked about this previously and the girls even mention it on the Be Be site. Most women will not orgasm through penetration alone in fact “research has found 70% of women climax through external stimulation? So this is perfect for just that. It is the right size, shape and you can control the speed of the vibrating, after all it is a very sensitive area. It’s not a big scary looking penis shape, so your partner won’t be scared of it, he may even like to use it on you. Anyway, lets just say I love it, get online and get yourself one,and no I don’t make commision from this I just love it!
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Posted in Media, Sex and naughty stuff, Uncategorized on August 27th, 2009 by Blog Admin | | 0 Comments
Positions 101 – Part one
After reading an article on sexual positions I decided to do some of my own research and share it with you. What fun I had, and boy did I laugh. Ever put sexual positions in your search engine? The results were interesting and quite amusing. There are so many I thought I had better split them up into a few posts. Most are traditional or Kama Sutra positions.
This is a Kama Sutra position called the second posture of the perfumed garden, there are 21 different positions in the perfumed garden (sounds delightful doesn’t it) mainly all designed for men’s pleasure by a man of course. It is also a variation of the Missionary called bee’s knees, apparently suitable for a man with a shorter member. What a nice way of putting it. I think this is for the more athletically inclined, the man does have to do a lot of the work (I like it already) but you try having your knees pushed up into your chest or up around you ears, it doesn’t leave a lot of breathing space. Especially if your big busted and everything gets pushed up around your neck with your knees. It does allow for intimate lovemaking, as my book “Real sex for real women” by Laura Berman says, “It allows you to watch each others orgasm face”. Does that make it sound pornographic to anyone else?
Girl on top or Cowgirl position for obvious reasons. Now whose in control! Definately one of my favorites. After all I am a Virgo and need to be in control. This is not for the self-conscious, because your body is on full display but you get to control the moves. I do sometimes wonder whilst in this position if my boobs are wobbling too much but as many men have assured me this is not a turn off anyway. There is also the reverse cowgirl position where the woman is on top but facing backwards. I’d be a little worried if your partner favoured this position, I’d be asking myself why doesn’t he want to see your face is he fantasising about someone else? And does my butt look big from behind? Not a fan of this reverse angle.
Standing whilst leaning up against a wall or the Kama Sutra name “driving the peg home”, (Once you have read the Kama Sutra you realise many of the names make no sense at all). Great, when you want a quickie and don’t have time or space to undress. Good for the shower, can be reversed to lean against the wall. It can’t be as hard as it looks, I’ve seen it done in movies all the time. If your man can lift you, great, otherwise keep at least a foot on the ground the man is very vulnerable in this position, this could lead to some serious injury to his appendage if you slip!
I have only just begun, there is so much more to share with you. Positions like the deckchair, leap frog, camel ride and many more. Have I got you interested? Well stay tuned for my next instalment. I might just put a few of these into practise, at least gives me something to write about!
Posted in Sex and naughty stuff on April 6th, 2009 by Blog Admin | | 1 Comments
I’ll Have What She’s Having…
Hi all, I wrote the following post as a guest piece, on another site. Please go check it out, another informative and fantastic blog. Momfamilychild
According to most statistics, only 30% of women will achieve orgasm during intercourse. Now I’m talking penile- vaginal intercourse alone. What a relief I thought I was the only one who needed more than a little help to achieve the big O. I decided to research the female orgasm for this blog entry, wow, there are a lot of hits for this one and boy did I learn a lot. Let me give you an overview to achieving an orgasm, men should read this too, you might learn something.
Firstly both men and women need to understand female genitalia, I myself had to look up how to spell that! Knowing where to find a vagina is a start, don’t laugh remember all the teenage movies where the young male is feeling around “down there” in search of the girly bits. Well, it’s real, some boys, and men don’t know and just feel around in that general vicinity hoping to strike gold. Simply knowing there’s a clitoris is useless if you don’t know why it’s there and what it does. According to Laura Bernman PhD, ” the holy grail of female sexual pleasure is the clitoris.” Because it is the size of a small pea and known to help turn us women on, I find men tend to be a little heavy handed. No, it’s not a button you just press and it’s all over, it is a very supersensitive area which I think is better stimulated indirectly and I’m definitely not scared to tell a man this.
As women we can have three types of orgasms, clitoris, G-spot and cervical. No worries with the clitoris side of things, but the elusive G-spot. Apparently this hot spot leads to “intense orgasms”, probably helps if you can find it first. I do remember going in search of this so called G-spot with an ex- boyfriend, after a while he asked if I came with a manual. Gee, that really took the fun out of it. I had to remind him I wasn’t a piece of furniture from Ikea, if he needed step by step instructions then he was best to look it up and get back to me. Note I did say ex-boyfriend! Seriously for many women I think you need all 3 areas stimulated to achieve orgasm, well at least 70% of us.
Now of course there are other contributing factors to whether or not you can achieve the big O. One of those factors is alcohol, too much may give you confidence but we all have experienced the down side of one to many. My girlfriend and I often discuss our sex lives and agree when we drink that it’s harder to orgasm. I’m not sure if men are aware of this but we have trouble “getting it up” too. Not literally of course but it definately numbs the senses a little. Alcohol makes you less inhibited maybe even a little daring but can make for long, sloppy and unfinished sex. Definitely no big O for either party.
Another factor is positions. Not all positions lead to orgasms. Men seem to think we turn into gymnasts when having sex, especially when plied with alcohol. Prince wasn’t lying when he sang,” gett off, 23 positions in a one night stand.” Yes, you may be great showing your knowledge of the Kama Sutra positions but really, having my legs up around my neck for 30 minutes is not necessarily going to achieve anything. Although sometimes I’m quiet proud of the fact that my legs can even get passed my waist. Women on top is well loved for a reason, it allows all the right areas to be stimulated that achieve orgasms. I also feel like I’m in charge a bit more, I am a Virgo after all.
Next, I think being in a secure relationship you feel more confident and relaxed, you get to know each others bodies and you’re not afraid to ask questions and direct them in the right direction. I’ve also talked about age before, for me it’s definitely a contributing factor to enjoying sex more. In my 30’s I enjoy sex more, and I’m more confident. I’m not afraid to ask for what I want, and not so worried about how big my butt looks in the mirror or if my boobs look droopy when Im on top. I’ve learnt if men are having sex they don’t care.
Ok, what about faking it a la Meg Ryan in the famous restaurant scene in “When Harry Met Sally”. I don’t believe in faking it, if it’s not happening why pretend, then they will never learn anything. My friend say’s she feels bad and doesn’t want to make her boyfriend think he is inadequate. Remember, (let him know this) all the above factors and the percentage of women who orgasm every time through intercourse alone is only 30%. They will get over it. There is so need to fake, best to just relax and enjoy.
Gee, I don’t think I’ve ever used the word vagina, clitoris and orgasm so much in one story. But I hope you learnt something or at least had a laugh. And when I do finally find this so called G-spot you’ll be the first to know.
Posted in Sex and naughty stuff on February 27th, 2009 by Blog Admin | | 1 Comments
