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Single White Female seeking SINGLE Man.
Looking for an honest, loyal and charming man.
Age: 26-40, although this does change regularly.
Height: I guess not shorter than me, preferably his face doesn’t rest in my cleavage. (I have experienced this it’s almost like having a dog).
Hair: Black, Brown, Blonde, Red, Bald, and Other. Not really an issue except if there is a comb over involved. I guess this comes under other, not sure what else does! I did also go through a stage of only messaging red heads.
Weight: I love this one, Slim, Athletic, Average, A bit overweight. Now who is seriously going to tick the latter? Clearly form some profile photo’s a man’s idea of “athletic” differs from mine. No a six-pack is not talking about beer.
Location: 10-20 kms from my postcode. This too changed and stretched out to just about anywhere!
I’ve just taken my profile off a dating site after 3 years of on and off cyber searching for my ideal partner. Basically I’m over it. It starts as fun your open to anything or anyone but it soon changes as you experience different types of dates and people. If I got one more “Thanks for your kiss but I’ve recently responded to someone else and won’t be following up your contact” I think I’ll scream. How about a “No thanks not interested”, though most of the guys didn’t even respond at all. Ok it’s not all bad; I have a friend who met a guy online her first date and they are now happily married. You could say she got lucky; it’s not always that easy. After receiving and sending over 400 kisses (this is what you send to show your interest) and at least 15 dates you’d think I’d find at least one match, or a guy worth pursuing. Well let me tell you about a few, this could take a couple of pages so I’ll narrow it down to the most memorable ones.
1. The fireman – interesting, the thought of a man in uniform attracted me. When he offered to buy me a drink, I thought this is going ok so far. Then he asked if I wanted my Chardonnay in a schooner glass! Bom Bom (you know that noise on game shows when you get the answer wrong)
2. Sleazy Guy No 1 – We met for a coffee and cake, within 5 minutes he was telling me about the $80,000 boat he was going to buy and how much he liked to spoil his girlfriends and buy them things. Giving him a chance to redeem himself we then went to the pub for a drink, where his hand found my leg within about 10 minutes. I mean it wasn’t even lunchtime! Bom Bom
3. Scottish Guy – met him at a sports bar, my first mistake. I had seen a picture so when I spotted him I approached and asked him if he was my date. He replied no he wasn’t and walked away before I could introduce myself. His accent had given him away and the fact that I knew what he looked like. What a bastard, he obviously didn’t like what he saw, but how rude. Bom Bom
I could go on and on… Don’t get me wrong some of my dates were very nice guys but there was just no immediate connection. Others I spoke to on the phone for weeks building up a rapport only to be disappointed when you met in real life. It’s like you have this great phone relationship but no chemistry in person. One of the reasons I would never move overseas to be with or marry a guy I met online if I had not seen him in person. It works for some but no thanks.
Men’s profiles are always interesting. Nearly every man (and I mean every) has “the Shawshank Redemption”, listed as a favorite movie. I agree it’s good but have some originality. And I love that they list every sport available as a favorite, for me this is such a turn off. A bit of sport is healthy but I don’t want to spend my life watching sport. Photos are interesting, of course you want to be looking your best, but I‘ve turned up to a few dates and the person looked nothing like their photo. It was obviously taken 3 years previously when they had hair and no potbelly (not that this is bad). It is human nature, physical attraction is important. I love the profiles that say, “no bunny boilers need apply”, like your going to admit you some bunny boiling psycho ala Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction! Really it’s a lot of effort just to get a date.
So with my Cyber searching for a partner over for now, where do I go next? Speed dating? Blind Dates? Or maybe stop trying so hard, as they say it’s when you’re not looking…
Posted in Dating on June 17th, 2008 by Blog Admin | | 1 Comments
Still Searching.
I often wonder why after 4 years I’m still single. Is it because I choose to be? Or am I becoming too fussy, do I really want to be in a relationship or am I turning into a commitment phobic man.Am I just disillusioned by the whole dating game? So many questions to contemplate, and so little answers.
Don’t get me wrong I enjoy being single, you answer to no one, can leave your washing up as long as you want, buy as many pairs of unneeded shoes as you like without having to explain to anyone why you just had to have them. But ultimately you get lonely and miss having the company, the affection and the intimacy. So what exactly am I looking for? Well firstly I don’t need to be looked after, I am financially independent, and have a good job, great friends and family. Some men find this intimidating; I had an ex who felt he didn’t have anything to offer me because I was so set up. As the song goes, “I don’t want your money honey I want your love”, got to love Transvision Vamp, now I’m showing my age! Don’t they understand we want, love, friendship, companionship and they do have something we want and don’t have and that’s a penis. They can come in handy sometimes.
I guess I have some expectations of what I expect from them, mostly all of the above I really don’t care what they do as long as they work (although I do get excited by a man in uniform but what woman doesn’t). I want them to have a life, to introduce me to new things and people. I’m not fussy about shape, age, or hair colour, although I do have a red head fetish. I do try not to be superficial and get to know someone before I ditch him. But there does have to be a bit of spark, I saw a guy recently who ticks all the boxes but I felt no connection or spark. I didn’t want to jump him every time he was near me, and my heart didn’t miss a beat when his number came up on my phone, these little things are important in the beginning.
A close male friend of mine who acts like my dating guru thinks I attract two types of guys:
- The quiet types where I have to approach him and initiate the conversation. This is because I’m loud and a bit forward so they feel too intimidated to come up to me. This is all fine as long as they aren’t too shy and it’s a one ended conversation, I want a man who will stimulate me intellectually as well.
- The bloke, the mans man, the beer pub and mates type of guy who maybe drives around in a Holden VE Ute, which happens to be my favorite car. Some would say a simple man when it comes to life, hard working doesn’t mind getting his hands dirty and wouldn’t be caught dead in skinny leg jeans of any sort. Sounds like half of my friends actually! I must say I am attracted to these types of guys. Some would say I’m stereotyping the typical aussie male but there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, because I know plenty of women who are attracted to that image.
I don’t think I can put any of the many guys I’ve dated into one category, I really don’t know what I’m looking for and I guess I won’t know till I find him!
Posted in Dating on June 10th, 2008 by Blog Admin | | 0 Comments
