Like a Cougar

My girlfriend is a few weeks shy of the big 40, divorced, living alone, and very happy in her single life. But had until recently put work, renovating and baking ahead of meeting men! Not that I object to the baking because she makes great slice! Recently a young guy (I mean old enough to be her son young) tried in vain to get a date out of her. Her excuse was the age gap, he’s too young, and I’ll look like a cradle snatcher. Of course we all encouraged her saying it’s only a number. I myself have used age as an excuse, more worried about what people will think than what I want. Men have been doing it for ages being labeled studs and sugar daddies, so it’s about time a woman can have a toy boy and be proud.So after endless text messages she finally agreed to a date of the nocturnal kind! I received a text the next morning, ” I feel 22 again (literally), I think I’ve got my mojo back.” Having lost it a few years ago after endless bad relationships and dating experiences. We arranged lunch so we could get all the juicy details. In she walks literally glowing with a huge grin on her face and a spring in her step. It’s amazing what a night of passion can do for your self-esteem.

At lunch we got right down to 20 questions:

Was he circumcised? Tick

Good Kisser? Tick

Not too hairy? Tick

And most importantly was he good? Her words- ” he had stamina”!

Yes if there are any men reading we do really talk about you. We compare, we go into detail and we love it. So next time put that little bit of extra effort in because you never know who might talk about you!

Of course he is an addition to the little black book which has had the cobwebs dusted off and is back in action. Call it whatever you like, but I say YOU GO GIRL!

Posted in Age, Sex and naughty stuff on October 11th, 2008 by Blog Admin | | 3 Comments

Man Drought

According to Demographer Bernard Salt – the highest ratio of single men to women is in Singleton, in the Hunter Valley, where there are 2 boys for every girl. SINGLETON! Isn’t it Ironic? Don’t you think? It’s like rain on your wedding day, a free ride when you’re already there, some good advice…. Sorry got carried away there; don’t you just love Alanis? Or if you’re keen to move to Glendon in QLD there are apparently 23 men to each woman. Well, gee what am I doing living in Sydney?

The last few weeks it’s been widely reported in the media, just to rub it in a bit more, (on the eve of my 34th birthday) that there is a man shortage in NSW. Well tell me something I don’t know. According again to Demographer Bernard Salt whose book; Man Drought and other social issues of the new century, ”women will find it easier to snare themselves a man during their 20’s and up to the age of 33, with an oversupply of men in their age group”. This is of course assuming I would want to date a man older than me! This same article said, “25 is the ideal age for ladies to take their pick of gents, when there’s 25 per cent more single men than women”. So looks like I’m about to become a cougar, which of course is an older woman, who dates a man at least 8 years younger than herself. Perfect there seems to be heaps of them available; I can have my pick of the litter. Hopefully they’re at least toilet trained so to speak.

I’ve really been thinking about this lately and I don’t think the problem is the short supply of men around 34 but where they are in their life. From my experience men around this age, if single, have often come out of or have been in a long-term relationship, whether it be married or de facto. If they are separated or divorced the last thing they want to do is get back in that type of relationship. Lets be serious if they can go out have fun with the boys, have one night stands and just enjoy the good life like a 20 year old, why would they want a girlfriend? Whereas the younger 20 to 29-year-old seem to like the older woman, and are far more interested in dating seriously. I asked a guy who is dating my girlfriend, (there is 12 years difference) why he is interested in being with someone so much older. For him part of the reason was that she was independent, confident about her looks and personality and wasn’t worried about what other people thought. Who knows if this will be long term but for the moment I say go for it, because apparently older women dating younger men is in and acceptable. Also, because we are in a man drought we might just have to ignore age gaps and enjoy life and dating for what it is. Kate Cebrano sang it well, “Young boys are my weakness”.

Posted in Age, In the News on September 4th, 2008 by Blog Admin | | 0 Comments

The Age Factor

Have you ever been called a MILF? I have and I had no idea what it referred to; I do now after asking a friend, it’s a mother (mum) I’d like to… and we all know what the F stands for.

This is supposed to be a compliment, I think, the problem being I don’t have any kid’s. This was bestowed on me by a group of younger male friends who thought I was old enough to be their mother at 31! Their ages ranging from 25 to 27 made this impossible, but that didn’t seem to enter into their schoolboy minds.

This does bring up the topic of age differences in relationships. I recently went on a Hen’s night in the city, and somehow ended my night pashing a young spunky lad, who still had cute freckles and that young innocence about him. Turns out he was 19, and he didn’t believe me when I told him how I old I was, or he was feigning shock. I choose to believe that with the lights dimmed I could pass for 20 something! I think men find it a challenge to date or pick up older women, I’m noticing even the clubs for over 30’s are being inundated with the younger generation. Sure it’s great for my self-esteem to have a younger man attracted to me and telling me I don’t look that old. They can be fun, energetic but also a bit inexperienced; maybe they want to be taught a thing or two.

A pro for the older guys is life experience, maybe they do have a little baggage but we all have that later in life, and it’s called our past. But do they want to have children? If they have some already do they want more? A friend of mine was seeing an older guy in his 40’s for a while but it ended when he couldn’t commit to having more children. Plenty of women seem to date guys a lot older than them; the thought of kissing someone old enough to be my dad makes me squirm a little. But I guess it’s for security and the fact that they hopefully, have a stable life.

Younger sounds fun, your friends think its great you have a toy boy, but what happens when you realise that he still is a boy. A friend once took a guy home that was young enough to be her son, and found him trying to wee in her cupboard that he’d mistaken for the bathroom. I was with a guy who on seeing the sign above my bed that says, “imagine,” asked very seriously who Imagine was! Young and not really that bright. The last guy I went out with briefly, had to text his mum where he was and couldn’t stay over; he went home one night at 3am because she would be wondering where he was; He was 29! Needless to say that didn’t go anywhere. Another guy I went out with for 2 weeks used me as a surrogate mum, he never had money so the few dates we had, I paid. One night he came over and we had pizza, which I paid for and watched, ” The Goonies” on DVD. Now that’s romance!

So the jury is still out on the age factor, I guess when I meet the right one it won’t matter how old or young he is, as long as he can keep up with me.

Posted in Age on March 7th, 2008 by Blog Admin | | 0 Comments